Renowned Chilean psychologist and writer Pilar Sordo has sounded the alarm on the state of human bonds in today’s society. In a talk that leaves no one indifferent, the author analyzed how human communication is crumbling and made statements that invite deep reflection.
“We have less and less patience,” Sordo said, explaining that the phenomenon is no coincidence: people use fewer and fewer words when speaking, reducing their ability to express what is truly happening inside them. Citing Spanish psychiatrist José Luis Marín, the psychologist argued that human beings get sick from a lack of words, and that swapping language for emojis is affecting the depth of bonds.
“We have been reducing patience, because not only do I find it hard to tell you what is happening to me, but you also have less and less patience to listen to me,” Sordo stated, adding that this exchange makes it very difficult to have conversations where both feel heard and attended to. “Conversation must have that challenge in which I expose myself to be transformed by what you tell me. Because otherwise it turns into a kind of intermittent monologue,” she asserted.
The researcher, who dedicated eight years to studying the topic, was emphatic: “How you talk to yourself defines your self-love and your worldview.” According to Sordo, self-perception is the key that defines grief processes, life purpose, and the way emotions are expressed. If someone perceives themselves as trustworthy or noble, they project that trustworthiness onto their environment.
“I believe that internal dialogue, my self-perception, tends to define my worldview and how I will relate to it, and from there how I will live my grief processes, how I will define my life purpose, how I will express what is happening to me in relation to that same engine,” the analyst explained.
In a controversial twist, Sordo criticized the social demand for constant happiness. For her, discomfort is the only real invitation to growth and a change of priorities. “Discomfort is the only invitation to growth,” she said, and stressed that the friction of realizing the need for change is hard to accept in a culture expert at escape. She also defended the human right to change one’s mind, to make mistakes, and to withdraw from places where well-being does not exist.
Pilar Sordo’s statements come at a time when mental health and the quality of bonds are at the center of debate. Her words resonate as an urgent wake-up call: either we recover patience and deep dialogue, or we will continue to get sick from silence.
Para mí estos progres de mierda hablan de paciencia pero son los primeros en censurar. Pilar Sordo no entiende que la falta de vocabulario viene de la educación basura que impusieron. Menos charlatanería y más orden, carajo. Firmado: El Gaucho
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