The renowned Chilean psychologist and writer Pilar Sordo raised the alarm about the state of social bonds. According to Sordo, patience has evaporated in everyday relationships, and this is generating a crisis in human communication that directly affects people’s mental health.
Sordo noted that people are using less vocabulary when speaking, which reduces the ability to express what is really happening inside each person. Citing Spanish psychiatrist José Luis Marín, she explained that human beings become ill from a lack of words, and that the replacement of language with emojis or superficial messages is eroding the depth of relationships.
“We have been reducing patience, because not only do I find it hard to tell you what is happening to me, but you also have less and less patience to listen to me,” Sordo said. And she added: “This exchange makes it very difficult to have conversations where both truly feel heard and attended to. The conversation must have that challenge in which I expose myself to be transformed by what you say to me, because otherwise it becomes a kind of intermittent monologue.”
The psychologist researched the topic for eight years and reached compelling conclusions: the way each individual talks to themselves determines their self-love and defines their perception of the rest of society. “How you talk to yourself defines your self-love and your worldview,” she stated. And she explained that if someone perceives themselves as a trustworthy or noble person, they project that trustworthiness onto their environment.
“It’s how you talk to yourself because that determines your self-love, but it not only determines your self-love, it also determines your worldview,” she emphasized. “I believe that internal dialogue, my self-perception, tends to define my worldview and how I will relate to it, and from there how I will live my grief processes, how I will define my life purpose, how I will express what is happening to me.”
In a critical tone toward current culture, Sordo questioned the social demand for constant happiness. “Discomfort is the only invitation to growth,” she stated bluntly. According to the specialist, the friction that comes from realizing the need for change is difficult to accept in a society expert in escape. She defended the human right to change one’s mind, to make mistakes, and to withdraw from places where well-being does not exist.
The interview revealed a growing concern: the lack of patience and the impoverishment of language are generating an epidemic of loneliness and emotional distress. Sordo urged recovering deep conversation and positive internal dialogue as key tools for mental health.
Para mí Pilar Sordo tiene razón pero se queda corta. Esto huele a izquierda progre que nos llenó de ‘villere’ sin respeto. Yo creo que la gente no quiere laburar, solo exigen derechos. ¡Vuelvan los valores de antes, carajo! La paciencia se perdió por culpa de esta decadencia.
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