In an exclusive interview, renowned psychoanalyst Gabriel Rolón dropped phrases that leave no one indifferent. «The worst possible sentence is to be forgotten; there is no other death than oblivion,» the author fired, making clear that a person’s legacy lies not in material possessions but in the mark they leave on relationships.
Rolón, who has just presented his book La Felicidad, was blunt in stating that happiness is not a permanent state, but a construction that must embrace lack and finitude. For the psychologist, the idea of absolute fullness is an illusion that leads to failure. Instead, he proposes the concept of «faltacidad»: integrating absences and pains as part of the vital experience.
During the conversation, the writer targeted social mandates and external expectations, that famous superego that, according to psychoanalysis, acts as an obstacle to genuine desire. «Being happy implies a very great responsibility,» he argued, and explained that it consists of accepting one’s own mortality and past wounds without falling into melancholy or idealizing the future.
Rolón also tackled the cultural obsession with hope and faith. For him, these mechanisms often serve to evade individual responsibility. «We must stop covering up absences with new relationships,» he warned, citing the loss of a parent as an example: people who come later bring challenges, but they do not replace what was lost.
Love, in his view, is «that wonderful invention to cheat death for a while.» But beware, because loving implies granting power over oneself, and sanity lies in consciously renouncing using that power to harm the other. «I am someone who is not willing to spend a single day next to someone I no longer love,» he exemplified, making clear that ethics in relationships are non-negotiable.
Regarding therapy, Rolón explained that his work as an analyst is to help the patient twist their destiny so that they are not a slave to others’ expectations. Happiness, in his view, is an act of courage that requires looking inward without shame. «We must abandon the comfort of commonplaces and face the disturbance of thinking about one’s own desire and one’s own finitude,» he concluded.
To close, the psychologist insisted that the true capacity to build meaningful moments is played out in the present, in the eternity of the here and now. Because in the end, as he himself says, happiness is an ephemeral moment that deserves to be lived fully, without excuses.
Para mí este Rolón es un payaso que habla pavadas como todos los zurdos progre. La felicidad no es un instante boludo es laburar tener familia y respetar la patria. Olvidate del psicoanálisis berreta lo único que importa es la fuerza y el orden. Esto huele a decadencia.
para mi este rolon la tiene re clara la felicidad es un pestañeo y el resto es verso del sistema para que laburemos como burros olvidate de los que te dicen que hay que ser feliz siempre son unos vendidos la muerte es el olvido si pero mientras tanto vivi sin pedir permiso a full los moralistas de mierda que juzgan que se vayan a cagar